People want to feel that someone cares about their wellbeing, but maintaining any kind of relationship takes work and it doesn’t happen overnight. A lot of people think they cannot find a partner because they are fat, or it’s because they are not attractive, or sexy enough and therefore destined to be alone. These are    not normal feelings. They are not good feelings. They are negative emotions that are sending you a signal. Recognise the signal!  For example, plenty of women are slim, beautiful & intelligent and have not found a partner, and it's not due to how they look or how flat their stomach is, it’s because they have literally been absorbing so much negative energy from their environment (without even knowing it). It’s like they are wearing invisible perfume that smells like dog poo! When this happens to a woman, or a man, they will find it very difficult to find a good relationship with the opposite sex. The people who do date them sooner or later just leave the relationship even when things seem to be going fine. It just doesn’t work and the person starts blaming themselves. Usually what happens then is, that after absorbing these energies for many years, these people become recluse: hermits - they won’t like going out, which adds to the problem.

And what about couples if both people are tapping into this low energy? It’s a marriage headed for divorce. Let’s face it, people don’t just wake up one day and decide to divorce, it happens because people lose passion for each other. People either clam up and stop talking or talk too much of the wrong things, irritating things, arguments. That is how and why people divorce because there is no more harmony and it is just not working anymore due to all the differences. Even if they still love their partner, they know that love is going to fade if they never touch, they’re always arguing and all sense of passion is dead like their sex life. Absorbing bad energy like this is truly dire because not only do they not have good relationships with   their partner, they won’t have a good relationship with themselves either. 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                           ___Self-Love is the key!___
 

Having positive relationships provides you with more energy, thus it becomes very important to heal all emotional blockages. Only those who are at ease and happy with themselves, alone, have no fear of being left alone by any partner. So erase all limited thinking like you are too weak, not worthy enough to have abundance, missing self-love, or missing self-esteem; hate, enviness, jealousy, or fear of something. All these thoughts are like a virus - they are blocking you from developing yourself. Change that energy into positive energy and think of that what you want - not of that what you don't want! Say: "I am happy & complete, and ready to meet the ONE."  You can further optimise the relationships in your life, by considering the following:

Take a look at the Southwestern area of
 both your entire home/ and your bedroom and
  see how the following suggestions will help:

►  Make Space! There is an old saying that Venus, the Goddess of Love will not enter
a home that is cluttered by piles of newspapers, laundry, or clotted with dust balls.
Make sure that your south-western corners are not places where you store junk.
► Act As If You Already Have A Partner. One way to attract the right soulmate into your sphere is to actually make room for them in your life. Make sure that your bed boasts a night table on both sides of the bed.
►Sensual items. If possible, fill this area of your home with sensual items such as candles; massage oils, favorite perfumes and favorite foods. Think of the five senses here, and make sure you have catered to each, as you try to augment this area.
►A fountain that features a classical image of lovers embracing or a heart shape also enhances your relationships 
► Tickle it Pink. In Feng Shui, pink is the color of love. The more pink the better!
Pink crystals in the shape of stars or hearts are ideal Rose quartz, pink tourmaline;
carnelian and pink sapphires are good stones draw the positive energies associated with love to you.
► Place Objects in Pairs. Replace solo-standing stuff with matching pairs of things:
a set of love birds,a couple of candles sticks, or two hearts made of rose quartz.
► Rounded and Curvy Items: Any practical item that boasts rounded curves such as lava lamps, particularly in red, or rose colours. The exception are statues that
feature a lone female figure. No matter how sensuous it looks: instead; 
...opt for romantic couples, or a matching pair of
lovers that compliment each other!

   Yin                                                                        Yang                                      
   feminine - flowing, sensual                              masculine - corners, edges
   soft curves, rounded forms                               vertical lines, upward, triangular
   stillness, yielding, diffuse, tranquil                active, movement, stimulating                          
   sensitivity, cosy, gentle, floral pattern           strong, expanding, fast, hard, solid
   water, earth, moon, nighttime                         fire, sky, the sun, daytime
   rich deep dark colours, decorative                  bright, festive colours, enlightentment

Become transparent!

1. Bring romance chi into the bedroom
2. Clarify your intention and make a collage
3. Make room for love!
4. Remove inappropriate imagery
5. Remove old relationship energy
6. Clean up your bedroom
7. Open the door to love
8. Create a path for chi
9. Move your bed
10. Don’t work out in the bedroom

The bedroom governs many areas of your life, but especially love and relationships. it should be comfortable,
uplifting and reflect the personalities of the people who live in the home. As a general rule: The best décor for your bedroom would be soft, sensual, seductive and tasteful...                    By displaying art that combines the elements of Yin & Yang, i.e. power with gentleness and strenghth with feminine beauty - they automaticially send out love vibrations that create feelings of intimacy in your home. Round curvy shapes are the best, as they imply the curves of the human body; symbolizing the yin-yang circle of masculine-feminine exchange. Furthermore, by adding warm, bright, vibrant colours such as golden yellow, pink, orange, red, pale blues, indigo or fresh green - you'll get out of the low, negative frequencies and move into higher, positive alpha waves, which in turn bring balance, harmony & equilibrium.  This means you will become healthier, more energetic, yet more tranquil, calm and restful.

If you want more intimacy as far as being close is concerned, earth energy would be needed. Things that contribute to earth energy can help your marriage in a positive way. By placing a lava lamp (fire), next to a bouquet of roses (wood) next to a clock (metal) next to a painting of fish (water) clockwhise around your bedroom...you'll see the difference! Feng Shui also states that if you want a great relationship, you need to show the Universe exactly what you want;
write it down and release it."I am now in a wonderful relationship with the love of my life!" Then bring this statement to life with an inspiring image, or beautiful scenes of a sensitive, romantic nature that touches your feelings of tenderness towards each other. This could either be...

- two complimentary figures,
- or a loving couple in embrace

They should always represent exactly what you desire - so that when you lie in bed and look at these images, that's
 what you'll attract. Hang this piece in the Southwestern corner of your room & also on the wall opposite your bed
so that it will be the last thing you see before you fall asleep and the first thing you perceive after you wake up

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If single, the best thing you can do is to display images that represent the opposite sex, i.e.,
a single man seeking a woman should hang pictures that have women strongly in the scene.
Remember, you create your own reality! So surround yourself with the best possible version
of a partner that ideally looks at you...not away from you! 

New Earth relationships will be much gentler, lighter, playful and joyous, yet wise and capable of real depth & intimacy because
people will be more  concerned with the connections of the soul. There will be no dominance, no victims, no dramas and no abuse -
and instead there will be more caring, nurturing companionships that come from power, equality, abundance and completeness.

You can find more romantic figure paintings under: Feminine Figures , Pregnancy Portraits, and Matching Pairs
All paintings below are available from the Monkey Cage Gallery from Feb 2012